It is always such a treat to hear from the founder of a modality, about what it really is and how it came to be. Even more so, when the modality is teaching people to be more free, more free to be who they are. The Grinberg Method® is one such experience for me.
In this video, the founder Avi Grinberg talks about fear and pain, attention and energy, and the story behind how his journey evolved into a structured approach now called the Grinberg Method.
Within these 24 or so minutes, Avi shares many gems such as “with enough energy and attention, there are very few things that cannot be achieved.”
The issue for many people these days is not a lack of time or even will, but a lack of energy. We dissipate our energy in many ways, and often unconsciously. We focus on the past. We focus on the trauma. It is not to say what we experienced is unimportant. But we exist now. What matters is the energy we are using to maintain these patterns we may not even realize we are. These patterns to avoid fear and pain.
That is why, to Avi, humour is essential. Not to laugh off what we experienced, but rather to not let what we experienced in the past be the rock of our existence. “Without humour, it becomes heavy, dogmatic, serious, meaningful, significant, and you become obsessed with it. You become hypnotized on your own pain and fear. Humour allows you to let go of it easier.” And to shift our attention.
Village + Walls
His theory on how we lost that attention is when we settled down in villages. We previously lived as hunters and in constant fear, as what could end our lives was never too far away. To stay alive, we paid attention to our surroundings and we perceived with our whole body. We lived with this fear that kept us enlivened and alive. It was a fear that was over in a short time.
When we built villages, we built walls to separate ourselves from a world that was hostile and unsafe. These walls did keep us safe but we also built walls inside, to separate us from fear and pain. We simply did not want to live with constant fear. The issue is not with fear. The body is built to deal with it. However, instead of dealing with a quick spurt of it, like hunted animals do when they either fight or flight, we live with longterm fear. Years even.
The positive of fear
Fear is a tremendous energy and force. “Fear exists in every moment. You are alive. You are immortal. You are afraid,” is the reminder from Avi. The body is in fear, a survivalist fear, all the time. But fear awakens. It allows us to feel alive. It is electric and electrifying. Avi put it this way, “fear is a strong energy that allows us to be more awake and more strong, more flexible, and be able to run faster.” And what we do, instead of allowing it to “move me, to move with it” we block it. We need a lot of energy to block this much energy, thereby dissipating our life force and becoming helpless and frozen. Paralzyed with fear is not just a metaphor.
HOW DOES THE GRINBERG METHOD HELP?
What the Grinberg Method teaches us to do is to increase attention on the part of the body that is weak and to let go of the areas we are obsessed about. Attention is crucial to healing. It engenders the body with more flow and more energy, to do what it naturally does, but at a faster pace. Attention allows us to see where we hold certain patterns of being – where we hold tension, where we withhold the breath. When we release the energy being used to maintain these limiting patterns, we get all this energy back, not only to direct to the recovery from llness, but to do what we want, to move outward into the world, and onward to our dreams and desires. Instead of living small in our mind and patterns that may have helped us at some point, we get to live fully, and freely.
For anyone living in chronic pain, Avi offers a few thoughts on moving beyond that pain. To start with, we have to change our attitude and not see pain as “just bad, or wrong.” And not to immediately move to avoid it. Sure it is natural to dissociate and “partition our mind and leave our body behind, to move to a safer place inside” when faced with something difficult, and terrible, and terrifying, just to survive. The problem comes when we continue existing in this way, instead of unifying ourselves, coming back into whole, and living in the present once more.
Avi makes a point that the Grinberg Method is NOT a treatment. It is not alternative medicine. He points out through paying more attention and taking responsibility for our health, Grinberg Method students become better patients. Grinberg Method is about learning. Clients are students. What do we learn? To be autonomous. To be free, and more ourselves. And honestly to live life more happily.